Emotional Cripples
S2 Episode Three

S2 Episode Three

January 1, 2020

Happy new year. We've only gone and done another fortysomething minutes of talk about male mental health.

This episode:

• 2019 and all that. We considered a look back on our favourite albums and movies and shows and things and trends of 2019. But we got bored with it, and talked about what we're worried about and looking forward to in 2020 instead.

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Get in touch:

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

Chase The Rainbow: https://www.simonandschuster.co.uk/books/Chase-the-Rainbow/Poorna-Bell/9781471160721

The Bob Dylan film Tim goes on about: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rolling_Thunder_Revue:_A_Bob_Dylan_Story_by_Martin_Scorsese

Julian Baggini - The Ego Trick: https://www.microphilosophy.net/the-ego-trick/

The Enigma of Kaspar Hauser: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Enigma_of_Kaspar_Hauser

Derren Brown - Happy: https://www.waterstones.com/book/happy/derren-brown/9780552172356

Brian & Roger: https://play.acast.com/s/brianandroger

S2 Episode Two

S2 Episode Two

December 22, 2019

Hello, it's us again. Two middle-aged British men talking about their mental health struggles: solidarity, coping strategies, trends, commentary on mental health in culture, shoehorned Simpsons references.

This episode:

• Perfectionism. Or, in mental health terms, OCPD (Obsessive-compulsive Personality Disorder). We talk to Chris Ward, global charity campaigner and adventure cyclist, about his book Less Perfect, More Happy, in which Chris documents his struggles with OCPD.

• The differences between OCD and OCPD.

• Why striving to be 'perfect' isn't necessarily a good thing.

• How the idea of being a 'perfectionist' can be a euphemism for destructive - and self-destructive - behaviour.

• What you can do to manage your life if you suffer from OCPD, or feel your behaviour displays elements of OCPD.

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

Chris's book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Less-Perfect-More-Happy-Chris/dp/0957612370

Perfectionism & OCD: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-truisms-wellness/201612/perfectionism-versus-obsessive-compulsive-disorder

Chris on Twitter: https://twitter.com/chrisatcoffice

S2 Episode One

S2 Episode One

January 27, 2019

We're back. Two middle-aged British men talking about their mental health struggles: solidarity, coping strategies, trends, commentary on mental health in culture.

There'll be occasional guests (let us know if you've got a story to tell) but for now, you're stuck with us, and our revolutionary new plan of 'doing an episode whenever we feel like it'.

This episode:

• That January mood. SAD or sad or clinical depression?

• How trying too hard could be a marker for a mental health issue.

• Why Gillette's 'The Best Men Can Be' campaign is a thing of goodness.

• How Andy has sort of misunderstood hedonic adaptation: https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/hedonic-treadmill/

 

 

Simpsons references: 1.

 

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

Gillette: The Best Men Can Be: https://gillette.com/en-us/the-best-men-can-be

Coming off antidepressants (MIND): https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/antidepressants/withdrawal-effects-of-antidepressants/#.XE15v8_7RTY

Crimewatch File: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLzrGOTtoco

Sorry To Bother You: https://danhett.itch.io/sorry

Andy's favourite Laurel & Hardy episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZujoJaR2ERY&t=225s

Christmas Special 2018

Christmas Special 2018

December 23, 2018

It's Christmas time. And, according to Band Aid's spurious claim, there's no need to be afraid. So, here we are to let in light and banish shade during one of the most joyous/stressful times of the year.

Just me and Tim this time, giving our tips for sanity retention over the Christmas period.

 

Plus:

• A fascinating educational moment where everyone learns about the celestial origins of Christmas.

• Some men occasionally clanging scaffolding in the background.

 

Simpsons references: 2.

 

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

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Trello: www.trello.com

Getting Things Done: https://gettingthingsdone.com/

Tim's band, Furlined: https://furlined.bandcamp.com/

The man who is eating nothing but mince pies in December: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-46622524

Food Rules by Michael Pollan: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/305288/food-rules-by-michael-pollan/9780143116387/

MR James ghost stories: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p06vz14y

Five stages of grief: https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/

Januaryland (Viz): http://viz.co.uk/2014/09/26/januaryland/

Monty Python's The Meaning of Life: http://www.philfilms.utm.edu/1/meaning.htm

 

Podcasts we mention:

A Podcast to the Curious (MR James): http://www.mrjamespodcast.com/

The Monster Hunter: http://themonsterhunters.com/

The A-Z of David Bowie: https://www.davidbowie.com/blog/2018/2/25/the-a-to-z-of-david-bowie-podcast

I Am The Eggpod: https://iamtheeggpod.com/

DavidBowie: AlbumtoAlbum (David Bowie, annoyingly with no spaces): https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/davidbowie-albumtoalbum/id1355073030?mt=2

Don't Do Things The Way I Do: http://zuzusbakery.co.uk/dont-do-things-the-way-i-do-the-podcast/

Bigmouth: https://audioboom.com/channel/bigmouth

Is It Rolling, Bob? (Bob Dylan): https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/is-it-rolling-bob-talking-dylan/id1437321669?mt=2

Griefcast: https://play.acast.com/s/griefcast

Happy Place: http://www.officialfearnecotton.com/news/2018/2/26/happy-place-podcast

Mrs Brightside: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p0683q6p

Slow Radio: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05k5bq0/episodes/downloads

Episode Six

Episode Six

December 10, 2018

Teenage male mental health. In the final episode of Series One, Andrew engages in a spot of artistically valid nepotism - by interviewing a member of his family. Tommy Lowe is Andrew's son - seventeen at the time of the interview. He talks about the view of mental health among his peers, his experiences with ADHD, and what it's like to grow up in a world where everything is on and everybody is expected to be open and available 24/7. Spoiler: it's surprisingly positive. 

Also:

• Andy has a moan about the mental health pressures of Christmas.

• Tim has got a new microphone.

Simpsons references: 1.

 

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

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The ADHD Foundation - https://www.adhdfoundation.org.uk/

Karl Pilkington on Christmas - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ih360TF60Vc

Greg Lake - 'I Believe In Father Christmas': https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPm6CheT6rs

Perfectionism and OCD - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-truisms-wellness/201612/perfectionism-versus-obsessive-compulsive-disorder

The Day Today Sinn Fein helium thing - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MR6jGJ1lq2U

 

 

 

Episode Five

Episode Five

December 1, 2018

Neuro-linguistic programming. It's a controversial approach to personal development and psychotherapy, with plenty of negative, bullshitty connotations. But a lot of people swear by it, including one of the EC co-presenters. So, we talk to NLP practitioner Ben Grassby about what it is, what it isn't, and how it can help with mental health struggles.

 

Also:

• Tim has had a conversation with 'a mate' about which male qualities women find attractive and how they relate to male mental health.

• Andy is annoyed about the inaccessibility of transcendental meditation.

 

Simpsons references: 2.

 

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

 

Ben Grassby and Bristol NLP: http://www.bristolnlp.co.uk/

Transcendental Meditation: https://www.davidlynchfoundation.org.uk/

Idris Elba/People Magazine: https://people.com/movies/idris-elba-sexiest-man-alive-2018-reveal/

Did 'shell shock' make us serious about mental health? http://www.bbc.co.uk/guides/zwg9kqt

A thing about Steve Strange: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/obituaries/steve-strange-lead-singer-with-visage-and-club-owner-who-became-the-leading-light-of-the-1980s-new-10045777.html

'Neurotypical': https://www.healthline.com/health/neurotypical#characteristics

Nietzsche and the 'ubermensch': https://www.britannica.com/topic/superman-philosophy

Stoicism and choice: https://dailystoic.com/control-and-choice/

Simpsons episode featuring self-help guru Brad Goodman: http://simpsons.wikia.com/wiki/Bart%27s_Inner_Child

Episode Four

Episode Four

November 23, 2018

Therapy. What is it? Why should you seek it? How do you find a good therapist? How do you BE a therapist yourself? So many questions. (Well, four.) This week, we talk to Paul Rose, AKA 'Mr Biffo' (it might be a sex thing). Paul is a TV writer who shares his frustrating, funny and enlightening experience of therapist training. The conversation touches on lots of elements of male mental health and hopefully illustrates why self-reflection is helpful and healthy.

 

Also:

• Tim has been crushing his overwhelm with an elegant offline productivity tool.

• Andy has been listening to a band who write songs about male mental health.

 

Simpsons references: 0. (We need to fix this. Maybe do a Simpsons Special soon.)

 

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

Seasonal Affective Disorder - https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/seasonal-affective-disorder-sad/#.W_e-HCGnyaM

 

Ryder Carroll & The Bullet Journal Method - https://bulletjournal.com/

 

IDLES - https://www.idlesband.com/

 

Paul Rose/Digitiser

https://www.digitiser2000.com/

 

 

Therapy training - https://www.bacp.co.uk/careers/careers-in-counselling/training/

 

Finding a good therapist

Episode Three

Episode Three

November 16, 2018

Autism. Managing mental health is already a daily struggle, but what if you had to do it with the added pressure of a neurodevelopmental disorder? We talk to Matthew Trerise, a support worker who specialises in helping people with behavioural challenges - including autism. Matthew clarifies a few myths about autism/Asperger syndrome and explains how an understanding of the condition relates to wider mental health issues.

 

 

Also:

• Andrew's had a tough week, and shares a unique coping strategy.

• Tim gushes about how music - particularly The Beatles - helps him manage his mood.

• Why art is great.

Simpsons references: 0. (We did have two last week, so we're allowed a week off.)

 

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

NATIONAL AUTISTIC SOCIETY

https://www.autism.org.uk/

 

RED DEAD REDEMPTION 2

https://www.rockstargames.com/reddeadredemption2/

 

THE WHITE ALBUM

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Beatles_(album) 

 
Episode Two

Episode Two

November 9, 2018

Happiness. What is it? Where does it come from? How do we get more of it? (The concept, not the Todd Solondz film, which is great.) This episode's guest is Dr Dean Burnett: author, neuroscientist, ex-Guardian blogger, stand-up comedian, really lovely Welsh man. In his book The Happy Brain, Dean talks to various people from many walks of life about what makes them happy. We spoke to him in darkest Chorleywood, during his book tour, and discussed the pressures on men, the futility of a search for a 'state' of happiness, and why The Avengers is a good thing for male mental health.

 

Also:

• Tim and Andy watch a terrifying horror film and decide it's about mental health not ghosts.

• Andy uses the word 'catharsis'.

• How road rage and having wine spilled on you highlights the key problem with finding happiness.

Simpsons references: 2.

 

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

DR DEAN BURNETT

https://www.deanburnett.com/

 

HEREDITARY

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7784604/

Episode One

Episode One

November 2, 2018

Hypnotherapy. Is it all just swinging watches and unconvincing past-life regression, or does hypnosis have a clinical basis that can help with mental health issues?

(Spoiler: yes. Yes, it does.)

This episode's guest is clinical hypnotherapist Dr Steve Carey PhD, Head of School at the Academy of Hypnotic Science in Victoria, Australia.

Steve offers some sharp insights into why anxiety can feel so profound and crippling, and how to reframe it and take back control.

Also:

• Tim explains how a mood tracking app has helped him realise he might not be so persistently miserable after all.

• Andy goes on about a George Lucas film and how it relates to mental health. (Not the one you're thinking.)

• Listener feedback and the usual desperate pleas for reviews and support and recognition.

And - during one bit, there's a weird audio glitch that sounds like a ghost speaking. Jesus.

Simpsons references: 1.

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Get in touch:

contact@emotionalcripples.com

@emcripples (Twitter)

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/

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Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/ 

Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)

 

Befrienders:

https://www.befrienders.org/

CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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SHOW NOTES

MUSIC

The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'

The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'

https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger

https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA

 

THE GEORGE LUCAS FILM

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0066434/

 

MOODNOTES

https://moodnotes.thriveport.com/

 

FUTURAMA THING

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbmQxZkSswI

 

HYPNOSIS

Academy of Hypnotic Science (Steve Carey): ahs.edu

Steve Carey Hypnotherapy: https://www.schypnoth

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